From being broken into a thousand pieces to finding a mentor.
I was shattered into 1000 pieces. I didn’t know what to do with myself. On so many levels I was like a vagabond drifting through the streets of my life. How, why you may ask? The answer is simple. Divorce. Not an amicable one, but one that takes every everything from you and leaves you with nothing.
So many people have direction in life, but in that point in my life I was directionless. It was the most unusual feeling, the best way to describe it would be listless.
On an external level there was depression, pain juxtaposed with an anger as to why we couldn’t have made it work.
On a deeper level there was complete doubt in my ability to function as a human being on multiple levels.
And as I wandered the streets of my soul I came across a little gem. A community centre called Rumi’s Cave (https://www.rumis.org) which had open doors and people with open hearts. Nothing needed to be said and nothing needed to be known. All were welcome.
And it was there that I came across my mentor. A man of his word and deed who did what he said and lived it. Who by his example showed what it meant to be human and to have humanity not only for others but for yourself.
If I look back on that journey and the time I have spent with my mentor and continue to spend. There have been so many epiphanies and fundamental changes in who I am.
The beauty of having a mentor was that I didn’t have to make a plan for my own development or how to fix myself. Just by spending time and discussing with my mentor the path unfolded in front of me and I walked it.
It wasn’t always easy and there were moments of confusion and failure, but when there is somebody there with you who has lived a life than their help is immeasurable.
And now I live a completely different life with a lovely family and I have learnt so much and become a much better person as a result.
I’ve completely changed in so many ways and I also know deep down inside that who I am today is built upon a mosaic of the path I have trodden in my past. And what I can advise is for any endeavour you are about to engage in or any crisis that you are in the depths of.
Leave your ego at the door and find a mentor.